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How to Set Self Help Goals

The key criteria for goals are:

1. They must be written down. The physical act of writing down a goal makes it real and tangible. You have no excuse for forgetting about it. As you write, use the word ‘will’ instead of ‘would like to’ or ‘might’. For example, ‘I will learn to drive’. This statement has power and helps you to ‘see’ yourself doing it.

2. Have target dates by which you will achieve your goals. Your goals must have a realistic deadline and this means that you know when you can celebrate your success. When you are working to a deadline, your sense of urgency increases and achievement will come that much quicker. Remember, small manageable steps help to break down your goals so that you don’t feel overwhelmed by them.

3. Review them daily. Post sticky notes of your smaller goals in visible places to remind yourself every day of what it is that you intend to do. Put them on your walls, desk, computer monitor, bathroom mirror or refrigerator as a constant reminder. This ensures that you do something towards achieving your goals every single day and they remain at the forefront of your mind.

4. Have a clearly defined destination. You already know your destination – to be the YOU that you know that you can be. However, don’t get so focused on the outcome that you forget to plan all of the steps that are needed along the way.

5. Having a way of measuring your progress is essential. By writing out the individual steps towards your goals, and then crossing each one off as you complete them, you’ll realise that you are making progress towards your ultimate goal.

6. Contain a reward for achievement. Plan rewards as you progress towards your ultimate destination. They may just be small things for achieving your smaller goals but plan to really push the boat out when you achieve the bigger and more significant ones. This will help to motivate you and push you onwards, as well as giving regular achievement highs.

7. Be set without limits. Be careful not to set yourself boundaries that may be influenced by your old inner critic or wimp trying to raise its head. Dream big with your new beliefs and behaviours – no wimping out here!

8. Have a defined support structure. You already have the inner resources that you need to achieve your goals and you have learned techniques that help you to access these when you need to. In the last chapter, you identified people that can help you on your journey, so ensure that you they are on call for when you need them, even if it’s just to give you that extra bit of reassurance if, and when, you need it.

9. How will you know when you are there? Only you can answer this one! But be aware, that as you become more self-confident and your behaviours, attitude and outlook change, you might feel that the You, that you aspire to be, appears long before you reach the ultimate long term goal at the end of your journey.


A super snippet from the acclaimed women's self help book:

How to set self help goals - extract from Self Help Book for Women

Finding Your Way Back to YOU
by Lynne Saint

A self-help book for women who want to regain their Mojo and realise their dreams!

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